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1.   Five Reasons to Stop Saying "Good Job!" 2. How to Give Feedback Without Sounding Like a Jerk I found these resources very interesting individually, but more particularly I enjoyed how they went hand-in-hand with one another. The first source covers much of its content in the title of avoiding the phrase "good job!" because it simplifies an achievement that can receive more than just a reduced phrase. Interestingly, the author also mentions about how in certain groups, like children, it draws a type of attention to them that makes them want to not repeat the behavior when told "good job" because it becomes lackluster, which is an interesting psychology. The second source then helps to divert to another method of praise from just "good job." It is more detailed than just giving feedback, but rather structures why and how you should give feedback, and its methods of doing so. These include relating yourself to the person receiving feedback, as ...

I have generally always had a problem with both topics of receiving any type of feedback, as well as having my own personal self-doubt. These two topics, receiving feedback and self-doubt, go very well hand-in-hand. I intrinsically (used to) associate any type of feedback with increasing my self-doubt; even when I would receive constructive criticism, I would feel like I made silly mistakes and it would increase my self-doubt, which was generally counterproductive toward my own improvement. I have learned grow from this, and do it much less. I liked TimHerrera's way of mentioning that you should 'crave' negative feedback to help us learn and grow more, as well as to better expect and deal with any type of feedback that could better us, even if it were not constructively put, as per the first article. John Spencer's article, Seven Ways to Crush Self-Doubt helped me learn to mitigate any type of criticism that was given negatively, and transform it in a way that makes it ...